If We Are Going to Use Language Can We Use it Well?

I want to use the sword of English benevolently or be non-verbal

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This is a very short post.

The title really says it all.

Presence is required regarding the way we use the English langugae to alienate and separate.

I studied with Rachelle Lamb, a direct pupil of Marshall Rosenberg who wrote Non Violent Communication. I don’t absolutely love non-violent communication, but I adore how many times she repeated,

Relationships are for relating,

and the way we are engrained to use language fails us for that.

So this is a call to ask yourself now:

Am I willing to learn and put in the effort to practice using language to set myself free and authentically deeply sustainably connect with others in ways that support my freedom and genuine benevolent sovereignty?

Big question.

Did you feel your yes or no?

Or maybe did it feel murky — like some feelings maybe trying to come up that need to be fully felt before you can decipher your clear yes or no within your body?

It’s very reasonable that one may feel guilt or shame or blame or disdain, etc. when reading that question that taps into a world of hurt, literally.

Whatever your answer to any of the above, great! Awesome.

Thank you for being willing to self-reflect in these moments here together.

That’s the most imperative skill to turn it all around.