A true story — Learning to let go — Don’t want to have a heavy time? Learn to let go. Moral of the story: crap weighs you down. I’m compelled to preface — in the hopes you can locate yourself in our story — this story takes place on Valentine’s Day last year with my on/off lover. …

I am allowed and I am free — It’s Friday night and I convince myself to go to a clothing swap. The swap is at a popular spot where good party people tend to go. I’m not sure what they mean by snacks and drinks. Juice? I’ve never been to a clothing swap with alcohol. …

My bank accounts desire not the restriction of my strangle hold — I have seen myself as pretty fast and loose with money. The same way I’ve been with my heart and many times my body. I could leave the story there since not that much has changed. At the same time, truly seeing myself seems like a big deal. Money really…

What it takes to really be together —

Send the energy up or down, not @ — By definition tyranny is: Cruel or oppressive government or rule. Tyrannosaurus Rex roams freely while his very presence causes most other dinosaurs to cower or flee. …

From there we can choose the adventure of actual love — No matter what I’ve done or said that triggered you (or exposed how triggered you already were) (how ready your system was to flop hard into fight or flight at the slightest perceived threat)… It never gives you the excuse to be abusive. I know meltdowns very well, first hand…

I want to use the sword of English benevolently or be non-verbal This is a very short post. The title really says it all. Presence is required regarding the way we use the English langugae to alienate and separate. I studied with Rachelle Lamb, a direct pupil of Marshall Rosenberg…

Three cues to notice you’re in trauma and what to do — Recurring pattern playing out through me and in front of me: feeling massive amounts of pain, not slowing down to really acknowledge that disassociating from the pain because it’s so much and don’t want to feel it and just proceeding (as per decades of practice) … going off in abusive…

When we’re traumatized we have to be our own inner trust coach — Of course, what I actually need to know is whether I choose this or not. I’m curious, love, about the reel you sent me with the horse bucking a bunch and then galloping down the sunset beach with the caption “Running free”. In sending me this are you telling me…